oh my god have you ever stumbled upon a facebook page 'women against feminism'? i cannot believe this 'i dont need feminism because i think men's issues need more attention; the wage gap is a result of choice not sexism" or better yet "because i love my louboutins" what the fuck i dont know whether to laugh or cry
Have yourself a good little laugh-cry, dust yourself off, and remember that you probably thought like those girls at one point in your life. I know I did!
So a while back i was at this party and i was the first girl to arrive and there were like 20 guys already there, we were all siting around, having a beer and whatnot when the dj arrived. So all the guys went out the front of the house to help set up the dj gear and it was just me sitting there alone in the backyard for like 5 minuets. I stood up to go follow them bc i was getting really bored when i realized something, my period had gone through my white pants and stained the while chair, i was humiliated, i had no idea what to do, i could hear the guys were coming back and i had to do something quick, time was running out. So i grabbed the chair, ran like 10 meters and threw it over the fence into the neighboring yard, i quickly walked back and tied my jacket around my waist. The guys soon returned and didn’t suspect a thing, i am amazing.
This post pretty much came about because I was asked if I had resources for Muslims who were discovering or newly coming to terms with their sexuality. I didn’t, and the poor advice I had to offer was … poor. So, I pulled up a few of the blogs I followed that are targeted towards queer Muslims, and put together this little post for you!
A good thing to remember is to avoid the self-hatred phase, if you can. Focus on loving yourself, and realising that Allah made you just the way you are, and that you are loved. If this phase is unavoidable, here are some helpful sites:
Spend a couple hours making/fixing up sims of people I used to know and was close with. Immediately set up a little room in the corner of the plot and stick them in there, letting them starve to death in their own filth.
Before the explanation part of this post, I need to say this so it will be in posts that are shortened by a reblog: More than anything I ask that you reblog this post so that kind millionaires more people will see it and more support can be given. All the Amazon wishlists and blogs are linked below the read more link!
As the new school year approaches, we are obviously in denial teachers are mentally figuring out what materials we need for the school year, what will be provided by the school or families, and what we will buy with our own money as we shop sales (if it is in our budget). Several members of our #education community on tumblr dealt with unexpected family deaths, weather disasters, or more happy (but expensive) life achievements like getting married or having a baby. Our pockets have been hit hard, and I think you’d be surprised how much of our own money we spend on classrooms each year.
Many of us teach in areas where our students’ families cannot help with school supplies. In fact, as I began working on this project, every teacher I contacted to include that came from a more affluent community declined being included so that classrooms in greater need could be helped. I am in awe of the teachers in this community. After the jump is a list of teachers and their classroom wish lists for the upcoming year. If you are able to, please consider supporting a teacher via their wishlist. If you’d rather make a donation to their supply fund or send a gift card, I’m sure you could contact them and they wouldn’t turn you down.
So after the jump are the blogs and corresponding wishlists from Tumblr’s teachers — most of the educators on this list I have personally interacted with and know them to be dedicated to their students.
A new school year is rapidly approaching here in the U.S. and sadly, many families simply won’t be able to provide their children with the school supplies that they need to succeed.
Likewise, many schools are so underfunded that teachers must dig into their own (extremely underpaid) pockets to provide educational materials. Last year, 99.5% of teachers reported spending their own money to provide supplies for their classroom, at an average of $485 per year.
If you are able, I urge you to check out these wish lists from teachers (complied by PPT) who are active in Tumblr’s #education community. And if not one of these teachers, consider helping a teacher in your local community by donating money or supplies through a charity such as AdoptAClassroom.org.
My friend Caren teaches at one such underfunded/high poverty school here in Austin, and I can report first-hand that even the smallest donation can help make the difference in whether a student gets the classroom experience they deserve, and most importantly, the education they so desperately want.
What is 50 shades of grey about? And what's so bad about it?
50 Shades of Grey was originally fanfiction based on the Twilight series, which was then published as a novel (along with 2 subsequent books). It sold over 100 million copies around the world and topped best-seller lists everywhere. It’s about to be adapted into a film, set to come out early next year.
It follows a college student named Ana Steele, who enters a relationship with a man named Christian Grey and is then introduced to a bastardised and abusive parody of BDSM culture.
While the book is paraded as erotica, the relationship between Ana and Christian is far from healthy. The core mantra of the BDSM community is “safe, sane and consensual”, and 50 Shades is anything but. None of the rules of BDSM practices (which are put in place to protect those involved) are actually upheld. Christian is controlling, manipulative, abusive, takes complete advantage of Ana, ignores safe-words, ignores consent, keeps her uneducated about the sexual practices they’re taking part in, and a multitude of other terrible things. Their relationship is completely sickening and unhealthy.
Basically, “the book is a glaring glamorisation of violence against women,” as Amy Bonomi so perfectly put it.
It’s terrible enough that a book like this has been absorbed by people worldwide. Now, we have a film that is expected to be a huge box-office success, and will likely convince countless more young women that it’s okay not to have any autonomy in a relationship, that a man is allowed to control them entirely. It will also show many young men that women are theirs to play with and dominate, thus contributing to antiquated patriarchal values and rape culture.
How exactly does fifty shades reflect badly on the BDSM community?
I can’t believe people are still asking this.
romanticization of a maniplulative abuser
lack of and/or disposal of the importance of consent
taking advantage of someone from a lower socioeconomic class
perpetuating the risky behavior of novices hopping into D/s with no idea what it is, which ends up subjecting them to
creepy abusive assholes who prey on naive subs who thing 50 shades represents BDSM (and who are prime victims because they wouldn’t know that they are being taken advantage of since force and possessiveness seem ‘romantic to them’
People running out to get zip ties or rope and shit to tie themselves up with without actually reading up on bondage. Blood clots and injuries ensue, yay
People putting themselves into emotionally intense scenes with no preparation and ending up frightened, confused and uncomfortable.
tl;dr, if you think 50 shades is a good representative of BDSM you are too unprepared and naive to get into BDSM.
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Fifty Shades of Wanna Guess How Many People Will Be Hospitalized Due To Flesh Wounds From Improper Knots After The Movie?
50 Shades of Glorified Abuse
50 Shades of Kidney Damage from Incompetent Crop Use
Fifty Shades of Pathological Violence Due To Past Trauma Isn’t Kink
Fifty Shades of how about you all keep your opinions to yourselves. I am one hundred per cent sure that no one - not a single person with a sexuality that isn’t culturally accepted - needs your opinion… We don’t need your opinions, we don’t need curing, and we sure as Hell don’t need uninformed idiots stereotyping all of us and making masochists sound like victims of abuse.
You seem to be misunderstanding the point. 50 Shades of Grey is not a healthy or accurate portrayal of BDSM. BDSM when practiced as it should is fine and it is good for many people. What is in that series of books and what well undoubtedly be in the movie is not healthy expressions of BDSM, it’s glorified abuse. If anyone reads those books and thinks that is what BDSM is, I hope they see a post such as this and understand that those books are a travesty.